For Devin Kasota Glaser and Alizeh Sadruddin Bhojani, the plan was to do a short fling.
Bojani was a senior at the University of Washington School of Law and looking for a job in New York City when we met at a mutual friend’s birthday party in October 2016 in Seattle. Although they hit it off, neither she nor Mr. Glaser was keen on a long-distance relationship.
“We were both pursuing professional goals. Dating was just a fun sideline,” he said.
Not intending to be serious, they soon had their first date. Mr. Glaser talked about his favorite topic, taxes, and Mr. Bojani revealed his love for potatoes. They started the night at a now-closed Seattle dive bar and ended the night at Pony, one of Mr. Glaser’s favorite gay bars in the city.
Not only did Glazer, who has lesbian parents, hate long-distance relationships, she never imagined herself getting married. His mother, Nancy Glaser and Jean Cassota, raised him decades before same-sex marriage was legal. He said that his “radical” home did not see marriage as being related to love, parenting, or family.
Born in Pakistan, Bhojani moved to the Seattle suburbs in 1999 with his mother, Shirin Bhojani. Her father, Sadruddin Bhojani, joined them a year later. Bojani said her immigration process felt “inhumane”.
“Immigration officers didn’t ask my mother’s name, so they changed her first name to ‘First Name Unknown,'” Bhojani said. “She was known as her FNU in all official documents until she got her green card.”
Afterwards, “I wanted to make systemic changes,” added Bojani, 33, who now heads federal immigration policy at One America, an immigration and refugee advocacy group in Seattle.
For Glaser, who holds a master’s degree in public policy from Seattle University and a law degree from the University of Washington, her willingness to change the way things are done makes her all the more appealing.
“We were both trying to save the world,” said Glaser, 39. Mr. Glaser is currently a staff attorney at the Tennant Law Center, which specializes in advocating low-income tenants in Seattle.
By the time Bojani graduated from law school in 2017, the couple had “planned” to end their months-long relationship, she said. She looked up how to do it online and told Mr. Glaser that, according to Google, the best thing to do would be to stop talking for two weeks. However, he refuted in his 24 hours suggested.
They spent 24 hours apart, each crying before deciding they were probably better off together.
Bojani, who has been in a long-distance relationship for two years, introduced Glaser to his father in November 2019 (her mother died in 2015). Afterwards, she told Glaser, “We’re either going to get married or tell her father that you’re dead.”
Abandoning even a fictitious death, he asked Ms. Bojani how she envisioned her engagement. In the end, they decided on “a double offer that was shared and agreed upon,” Glaser said.
In February 2020, when he was visiting her in New York, the couple proposed to each other outside of Brooklyn’s Red Hook Winery, crying happy tears frozen in frigid temperatures. Three months later, Bojani returned to Seattle, where the two now live.
On June 25, they were married in the Seattle home of the groom’s mother, Ms. Glazer, in her backyard.・Mr. Powers officiated at the ceremony, which was followed by a party of 20 guests.
Travel restrictions prevented some of the bride’s family from attending, so a second wedding ceremony took place on July 3 at the Westwinds Ismaili Jamatkana, an Ismaili Muslim prayer center in Calgary, Alberta. rice field. In front of 40 masked guests, Anwar Lahani and Shafiq Kurji of the Ismaili Muslim community led the couple in an Islamic Nikka ceremony that included signing the marriage contract.
They will hold their third gala on October 28th at the Amor Boutique Hotel in Sayulita, Mexico.
After two ceremonies and a third one on the way, Glaser is still reserving the marriage, calling it a “lazy and highly problematic institution.” .
Still, “I had so much fun celebrating in front of my friends and family. I still cried,” he said. “Because love is sweet”